Mitr is a support center that arranges programs regularly for special needs parents in Chennai.
Friday, December 2, 2016
NLP – NEURO LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING By Ramesh
We had a session by Mr Ramesh on neuro linguistic programming or NLP. Here is a summary written by Priya Sasi.
NLP INTRODUCTION
NLP – NEURO LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING
NLP was created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in 1970s in USA. NLP creators claim that there is a connection between neuro processing, language and behaviour patterns learnt through experience and can be changed to achieve goals in life.
DEFINITION OF NLP
Simple definition of NLP is
“ How we do, What we do”.
What we do is the CONTENT
How we do is the PROCESS
How do we use NLP in REAL TIME?
Thought --------à words ------ --à outcome
When you manage (in other word), if you are in the business of people , to ge t a desired outcome sometimes the focus should be on the content and sometimes the focus should be on the process. But NLP recommend s to keep the focus on the process.
IMPORTANT TERMS IN NLP
1. Pattern
2. Map
3. Strategy
4. Belief
5. Modeling
6. Conflict
Pattern
Anything and everything around us are patterns (something which repeats itself ). The ability to recognize patterns around us help us to live in harmony with world around us.
The best way of recognizing a pattern is “observing patterns”, i.e. simply listen to someone how he/she is saying/doing/being.
The more you recognize someone’s patterns, the more you connect to them in a way they want to connect.
Some patterns support us and some patterns stop us.
Map
Map is a perception based our experience.
Each person has their unique map based on their own experience.
Strategy
Programming may be defined as strategies we form to achieve our goal.
Strategies may be
• Unconscious strategies or
• Conscious strategies.
Unconscious strategies are strategies, which are formed to perform our regular tasks.
Conscious strategies are strategies, which are formed to perform a new task.
There is no generalized strategy which is suitable for all.Each of us have to form our own strategy.
Best strategy is to “Trust your own senses”
What is the exact thing I did, after it works well is the Best strategy.
Belief
We form a belief, when we get a desired response for a particular strategy.
Modeling
The core of NLP is “Modeling Excellence”
Children learn everything from parents . Parents are their role model. They are not aware of values or right or wrong. When a child sees his/her parents, he/she forms patterns from them and he/she follow parents as role models . So it becomes very important to be a good role model as a parent rather than instructing them.
Conflict
If we run a strategy for getting an outcome, but then the outcome is not as expected, there comes the conflict.
Conflicts maybe
• Within self
• With others
We should learn how to resolve the conflict with congruence.
STATEMENT AND DISCUSSION
Statement 1: Map is not the territory
What we see is not actual.
Map is perception based our experience
You represent what is true for you. So every individual have different map.
Statement 2: The Meaning of communication is the effect / response.
Whatever the response you received is what you communicated
Change your belief and have a strategy to have your required outcome
(i.e.) the response depends on how well we communicate. If we don’t get desired response, we need to change the communication pattern. And the more strong we aspire for an outcome, the more effective we design strategies to achieve it. If our aspirations are not strong , we may not be successful in designing effective strategies and in that case we choose to live with it.
SUGGESTIONS
1. One way of empowering the child is not to rescue the child.
2. Accept the child as he/she is.
3. Observe the child so that you can understand the way he/she wants to learn.
4. Recognize the learning style/ way( visual/auditory/kinesthetic) of your child
5. We all have default sense similarly child also has default sense, recognize child’s default pattern and respect his sense.
6. Find your default way of being and find child’s default way of being, based on that work with thechild.
7. It is important to take yourself as reference(internal reference), then only you will be moving ahead in any task.
8. Children themselves will give solutions, just hear them.
9. Person with greater flexibility always succeed.
10. Acceptance is the important key to success.
a. Accept self,
b. Accept partners and
c. Accept the situation
Saturday, November 5, 2016
Bach Flower Remedies-Session by Deepa
Deepa Vijay shared her knowledge of Bach Flower remedies with us to help us handle our emotional issues with ease.
Bach Flower
Remedies
Background
• Flower
Remedies - discovered by Dr Edward Bach.
• 37
flower remedies have the dew collected from the surface of wild flowers and water collected from springs near the same flowers.
• Each
flower is directed at a particular characteristic or emotional state, and the dew collected from it imbibes that nature.
• BFR
not only work for humans, they are very effective when used with plants and
animals too.
How do they work?
• Bach Flower
Remedies (BFR) act at an emotional level by raising our vibrations and opening
up channels for receiving the spiritual self.
• In the
state of being closer to our Spiritual self we find peace and are relieved of
suffering.
• BFR flood
our nature with the particular virtue we need and wash out from us the fault
that is causing the harm.
• BFR works
not by attacking the disease but by flooding our body with the beautiful
vibrations of our Higher Nature.
• BFR works
like peeling of an onion. One emotion after the other gets healed.
• BFR heals
the internal emotion along with the external disease.
General Info
• Available
in tincture form and pills form in any homeo shop.
• No danger
of overdosing or side effects.
• No diet or
other restrictions.
• No contra
indications.
• Just
dissolve the pills in drinking water.
• BFR do not
have any expiry date.
• BFR do not
react with any other system of medicine you are currently taking.
Dosage and Repetition
• In acute
diseases, one single dose (2-3 pills) gives results in minutes if not seconds
• If there is
relief but not complete, repeat several times
• If there is
no relief in the first dose, the selection is wrong
• In chronic
diseases 1-3 doses per day
• With every
change in the picture, add a new remedy as required
• In acute
diseases, one single dose (2-3 pills) gives results in minutes if not seconds
• If there is
relief but not complete, repeat several times
• If there is
no relief in the first dose, the selection is wrong
• In chronic
diseases 1-3 doses per day
• With every
change in the picture, add a new remedy as required
BFR
• These 37
remedies span the whole arena of the mental and emotional suffering experienced
by man.
• BFR were
divided by Edward Bach into 7 groups which represent 7 major areas of Consciousness
where mental and emotional imbalances occur.
7 Groups of Remedies
- Fear
- Anger, Rage, Resentment.
- Worry, Guilt
- Indecision, Uncertainty
- Sadness, Depression.
- Opinionated.
- Desire for approval
o Fear
Unspecified Fear -Aspen
• I have
vague irrational fears
• I am
terrified of the dark
• I wake up
suddenly in the night frightened by nightmares
• Sometimes
in the morning I am struck with fear that something bad will happen
Specific fear-Mimulus
• Afraid of
injections
• Fear of
disease
• Fear of
flying
• Fear of
exams
• Nervous
breakdown
• Fear of
heights
• Fear of
public speaking
o Anger,
Rage, Resentment
Misplaced anger/ outbursts of
anger/ fear of losing control over oneself-Cherry Plum
• Anger is so
uncontrollable that I tend to beat
• Suddenly
lose my temper and scream at my husband or whoever is in front of me
• If this
goes on, I will go mad and commit suicide
• Unbearable
itching/ pain
• Addictions/
cravings
• Uncontrolled
cough, Violent/ Dominating- Vine
• Expect to
be obeyed without question
• Impose will
on others and lose temper when contradicted
Rage/ Hatred/ Jealousy/ Distrust-Holly
• Want to
punish him for hurting me
• Suspect him
for ulterior motive
• Sibling
rivalry
Temper tantrums/ Attention seeking/
Possessive/ Emotional blackmailing/ Make others feel guilty- Chicory
• Fear of
losing persons to someone
• Demanding/manipulating
• Possessive
of friends – wanting to be the centre of attention
o Worry,
Guilt
• Hides grief
from others/ internally tormented-Agrimony
• Drinking
for overcoming grief
• Desire to
wander
• Don’t want
to burden anyone with worries so does not reveal his problems.
• Constant
Worry/ Unwanted Persistent thoughts-White Chestnut
• Talking
with self
• Clinically
alright but symptoms of disease exist
o Indecision,
Uncertainty
Inability
to make up mind between two things-Scleranthus
• Not able to
prioritise my work
• Always late
• Procrastination
• Extreme
mood swings
• Delayed
memory
• “Once more”
– checking and rechecking locks etc
Sudden uncertainty/Suddenly doubtful about carrying out the day’s work--Hornbeam
• Just the
thought of going to office makes me tired
• I feel
mentally exhausted at the thought of all the work I have
• I get tired
very easily
• Work is not
exciting
Sudden mental block- Elm
• Midlife
crisis – feeling of how long can you go on
• Sudden
mental block in the middle of a presentation
Has too many ideas but cannot find the right
one/ Lack of direction-Wild oat
• I have
tried diff things but nothing gives me satisfaction
• Employed in
many jobs
• “What is my
aim”, disillusioned, at crossroads
• Feeling
that life is just passing by
“I cant”/ ”I Wont”-Larch
• Lacking
self confidence
• To use
inner potential to the max
• “I want to
become like someone”
Indecision- Cerato
• Always
asking opinion from others
• Always
searching for solutions and not finding answers
• Cerato is
the inner Guru.
o Sadness,
Depression
Unknown/ Deep Depression- Mustard
• There is
only darkness in my life
• Bipolar personalities
alternating sadness and happiness
• To
understand any subject
Total hopelessness in every walk of
life-Gorse
• Feel sad
all the time
• A lot of
failures depress me
• I can never
get over this loss
• Incurable
disease and you are left with no hope
• To make
possible whatever is not possible
Depression turning to bitterness/
resentment –Willow
• Why am I
handpicked by God to suffer?
• My parents
ruined my life.
• People
really don’t like me.
Apathy but no complaints-Wild Rose
• Become
listless/ lifeless.
• I have
become indifferent to what is happening.
• Lack of
enthusiasm.
Shock –Mental/ Physical-Star of
Bethlehem
• The death
of a near one devastated me. Am yet to get over the shock.
• Useful
while imparting shocking news.
Great anguish/ Despair-Sweet
Chestnut
• Severe
mental anguish “Even my enemy should not have this”
• “Everyone
has deserted me.
o Opinionated
Persistence in attempts-Oak
• Trying to
repair something while knowing nothing about it.
• Will help
to work smartly
Superiority Complex-Water Violet
• Cannot be
receivers
• Desire
loneliness
• Do not like
others to interfere in their work
Inflexible-Rock Water
• Highly self
disciplined, hard on himself.
• Arrogance/ego/
pride because of his principles.
Too much gyming/ yoga.
Temperamental/ Irritable/ Always in
a hurry-Impatiens
• Quick to
temper
• Sensitive
to sound.
• Ear
problems
Over enthusiasm keeping mind
occupied-Vervain
• Trying to
change other people through advice.
Over
enthusiasm keeps you sleepless.
Mind is
always preoccupied with schemes finished and unfinished.
o Desire for
approval
- Pleasing others always-Centaury Cannot say
“no” to anybody.
• Does work
for others with anger/ resentment.
• One who has
low self esteem.
• Has a
docile/ submissive nature.
• Person is
easily led/ deceived by flattery.
Self obsessed/ Poor listener-Heather
• Always
talking about oneself.
• One who is
lonely because others avoid him.
• Exaggerates
his troubles.
Mental and Physical Exhaustion
Total exhaustion leading to
disinterest-Olive
• When I get
up in the morning I am mentally very tired
• He needs to
be pushed to start his work
• He has eye
strain watching TV/ computer
All time remedies
Walnut
• Adjust to
situations
• While
moving to a new place
• While
changing jobs
• To become a
truly spiritual person
• Though
strong willed finds himself in forced circumstances
• Transition
to next level – developmental milestones/ school/ college/ jobs
• Crab Apple
• Important
for de-addiction
• For Self
dislike
• For someone
who always thinks about cleanliness
• Frequent
washing of hands
Rescue Remedy
Remedy for all emergencies - Bach also discovered a
unique combination of 5 remedies which aim at restoring calm to a person in an
acute emergency situation.
• Rescue
Remedy is a combination of the following flower remedies:
– Rock Rose
(to counter act terror and panic)
– Cherry Plum
(to balance intense tension and fear)
– Clematis
(to overcome faintness)
– Impatiens
(to counter act inner turmoil)
– Star of
Bethlehem(To reduce shock, trauma and sadness)
Tips
• Aspen- Afraid of darkness – spray
aspen in the room
• Mimulus – Used for luck, Fear of exams.
• Fear of
exams when extreme – Mimulus + Rescue Remedy
• Take 2
pills of Mimulus while getting into an auto. He will only charge by the meter.
• Crab Apple-
To remove side effects of allopathic drugs take Beech +Crab apple.
• Reduces
heaviness after a meal.
• Good for
skin problems.
Ear
problems- Remedy for ringing sound in the ears/ loss in hearing/ Ear problems –
Heather+ Impatiens+ Hornbeam+ White Chestnut.
• Cherry Plum- Good for singers to maintain
their voice / hit a higher pitch.
Useful before delivery of the baby.
• Vine- While giving advice to
someone take Vine, advice will be readily accepted ;)
• Holly - Sibling rivalry
– Holly +Chicory.
•
Chicory- Chicory plant roots are 60 foot deep. Chicory
tendencies are as deep as the root of its plant.
Chicory also called the “mother in
law remedy”. Has to be continued for at least 6 months.
•
Harmony Remedy - Beech
+ Willow+ Chicory + Walnut+ Agrimony (5 pills each) – to be taken once a week.
• Facial glow- 5 pills Agrimony + 5 pills
Crab apple – Wash your face with the water or wet a tissue with this water and
keep on your face for some time.
• White
Chestnut- For
persistent cough. Good tranquilizer.
• Scleranthus
- For
constipation.
For delayed labour or breech baby.
• Hornbeam- For
unsolvable problems take Hornbeam + Oak +Walnut
If the car has a starting problem, chant Hornbeam.
• Vervain - Time management
– Vervain + Scleranthus.
• Seizure- White chestnut+ Mimulus
everyday to prevent seizures
During a seizure – Rescue remedy.
Diabetes/
Hypertension - Wild
Rose.
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